Saturday, February 13, 2010

Change of Plans

I thought I was off the hook. I had avoided Topher's sickness all week long, but I caught the dirty little bug last night. The thought of driving for hours in the car made me feel even more nauseous, so we made a change of plans. Topher is still going to spend the day and night with TJ's parents, but TJ and I are just going to stay home, drink Sprite, sleep at will, and watch movies. I'm a little disappointed that our trip has been cancelled, but the whole point was just to be able to spend time alone together. I don't care if that happens in Columbia or right here in our living room. A big thanks to the grandparents for a break and a chance to recover!
Besides, Topher was so excited to put on his coat and wave bye-bye to me before getting in the car. He likes to cling to me whenever I'm available, but when I'm not around, he's happy just being in the company of people he loves. He even gave me a big smile right before he left for his grandparent's house. I don't think anything can affect me the way that smile can.
I'm so lucky to be married to TJ. He is such an involved dad (the diapers, the baths, the feedings, the playtime--he can do it all, and he does it well), and I don't think anyone could make Topher and I feel more loved. He works hard so that I can be home with Topher, and then he comes home and loves us and everything feels right and whole. Whenever we hear the garage door open, Topher starts saying, "Dad, dad" and it's my favorite time of day. He's so wonderful to be married to that I don't care if our Valentine's Day is spent in a fancy hotel or just here on the couch. I don't want flowers or chocolates, just his massive arms wrapped around me. I can never thank him enough for pursuing (stalking) me even after I was repeatedly mean to him, but I'm so glad he could see past my rejections to my true feelings for him, even when I couldn't. I'm so glad that he hung on to all our good moments and shrugged off the bad ones, so glad for that arrogant streak that naturally runs through him. I remember him telling me one day after a quarrel that I was going to end up with him, and I said it would never happen. He asked me why I couldn't say that without smiling and he was right, I felt my mouth turning up even as I was trying to stay stern. I know the very moment I fell for him, I remember because I couldn't breathe when I looked up and he was standing in the doorway, and my life literally has never been the same since that day.
Happy Valentine's Day to the love of my life.


  1. This is such a sweet post, you really have a way with words KC. :)
    TJ sounds like an amazing husband a daddy, you are truly one lucky girl, and he is a very lucky man. I'm so sorry that you ended up getting Topher's bug. At least you can stay positive and see what really matters. That's why I like you. :)

    So Happy Valentine's Day to the both of you, hope you enjoy each other's company and feel better soon!


  2. Aww, thanks so much sound like you landed a fantastic guy yourself, can't wait to meet him! Hope you guys have a wonderful Valentine's Day!! That full night's sleep did wonders for me...I'm a new woman today and I feel a million times better. :)

  3. I am so sorry you are sick and missed your trip to Columbia, but I am glad that you still got to spend the day alone with your man :) It made me think of the Friends episode when Phoebe had the chicken pox and her boyfriend (charlie sheen) got them too and they scratched eachothers pox. Hee Hee! Maybe you two can come up with something clever :)

  4. Haha, Katie, too funny. I realized that it does NOT matter where you are--if you are child-free, it is a vacation. :) It was the most relaxing day I can remember. And laying down to sleep knowing that I did not have to wake up was unbelievable!!!